“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.”
-Up, 2009, Film.
I have worked with couples searching for help for a variety of reasons. During the course of a relationship couples tend to go through natural peaks and valleys as they juggle careers, parenting, home responsibilities, and finances. In addition, relationships are further stretched and tested between the many roles each partner takes on such as mom, dad, daughter, son, sibling, friend, and employee. During the chaos of life, we sometimes misdirect our frustrations onto our partner unknowingly. Often times we need something from our partner, whether conscious of it or not, but don’t know how to ask for it, or are scared to. Instead we act out our frustrations and disappointment by playing passive-aggressive games and participating in incongruent communication. My work with couples centers on increasing direct communication patterns, assisting the couple in identifying the needs they would like met by their partner and demonstrating how to ask their partner to meet those needs. The ultimate goal is for the couple to feel heard, understood, respected, and loved by their partner.
Couples have come to see me for help with:
Sex and Intimacy Issues
Infidelity & Trust
Relationship Dissatisfaction, Frustration, and/or Unhappiness
Emotional Withdrawal or Volatility
Extended Family Conflicts